Three Tips For Your Summer Social Life

By Lev Novak

Welcome to the summer. It’s here, guys. We made it.

But when it comes to the summer, especially if you’re coming from the Northeast, where the weather changes dramatically, your social scene and circle will change along with it. So, now that it’s the new season, what should you be planning or expecting?

1. Go To The Outer Circle

When it comes to friendship, oftentimes we end up with our favorite, most comfortable people. And that’s fine. But in the summer, when there is so much free time, you’re going to see those guys anyway. You will, as you should. But when it comes to new adventures, new people, and the unexpected, you need to break from your routine and center.

You need new friends.

Not “new” friends even, but the friends you might otherwise have forgotten about or neglected this trip. Friends of friends that you like. People who have just started to drift away. A coworker still in the area. Why not? Because when you have all this time, all this gorgeous weather and all your inner circle friends, you can invite those people to events and adventures. They bring a new spice, new people, and a new feel to your summer.

Plus one of them might have a pool.

2. Plan Adventures, Not People

If you want to get something done in the summer, be it a beach trip or anything else, it’s better to make the plan and fill the people rather than the other way around.

Look. You love your friends. Of course you do. But you, of all people, know their quirks and foibles. You know if Xander is going to flake like he always does, or if Laura doesn’t want to go on any trip without Adam, and that Josh hates Adam and Josh is the one with the car. So forget them. Don’t worry about the people except those who are needed for the plan.

Josh has the car. Start with him. Let him bring his friends you only vaguely know. You know why? Because it’s the summer. Get the adventure to work out, meet people you like, then come back to the people you know best.

The people will be there for the summer. But the windows for adventures can be slimmer than we’d like.

3. Make A Big List

You’re not going to get everything done this summer.

That’s the sad truth, and it’s one that’s been proven summer and summer again. No matter what your goals are- your road-trips, casino adventures, flights and make-outs imagined- you’re only going to do, I don’t know, a quarter of them.

That’s life. So make a big list.

Make a list so big that doing a quarter of those things would be crazy, would be awesome. Aim to do them all; try to fill that list, yo. Because when you fail and plans flake, you’re going to find that adventures are hard to have. And, you’ll find that the few that come together add up and gain momentum.

Be ambitious with your plans, and be optimistic and upbeat even when they fail. Even when most fall through, you’re going to get some good ones. And isn’t that what it’s all about?

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